Relationary
The power and beauty of good relationships. A podcast for community builders, Christians and church leaders.
The power and beauty of good relationships. A podcast for community builders, Christians and church leaders.
Episodes
Sep 26, 2025
What is Wisdom
Sep 26, 2025
Sep 26, 2025
41 min
What exactly is wisdom?
Robin unpacks with Phil and Andy what the Bible teaches about wisdom. This episode explores a broader definition of wisdom that goes beyond merely an intellectual capacity.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our websiteAnd get in touch via Instagram
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Editor: Yishak Haile
Sep 26, 2025
41 min
Sep 12, 2025
Lasting Happiness Part 2
Sep 12, 2025
Sep 12, 2025
40 min
How do you define the good life?
Andy explores with Phil and Robin a subject from his book, Lasting Happiness, where they consider how to deal with the fragmented, compartmentalised and incoherent difficulties in life. This episode dives into how we try and deal with these struggles to attain the good life.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Editor: Yishak Haile
Sep 12, 2025
40 min
Sep 8, 2025
Team Culture
Sep 8, 2025
Sep 8, 2025
30 min
How can we make the best contribution to any team?
Robin and Andy discuss the bestselling book, The Culture Code: The Secret to Highly Successful Groups by Daniel Coyle.
This episode explores how individuals can play their part in building culture within teams.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our websiteAnd get in touch via Instagram
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Editor: Yishak Haile
Sep 8, 2025
30 min
Jun 25, 2025
Lasting Happiness 1
Jun 25, 2025
Jun 25, 2025
44 min
What is happiness?
Andy dives into his book, Lasting Happiness, and discussed with Phil and Robin the link between the nature of happiness and relationships. This episode explores how the moments of sheer exuberance and delight in life often comes when we connect with others.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Editor: Yishak Haile
Jun 25, 2025
44 min
Jun 25, 2025
Pursuing Purpose Alongside Others
Jun 25, 2025
Jun 25, 2025
30 min
How do you find others to pursue a purpose with?
Long-time friends, Phil Stokes and Andy, explore the lessons they have learnt, finding other people to build together with, for lasting impact.
This episode explores how to identify and explore core values within a community setting.
Phil Stokes, avid jazz fan, and founder of REACH London, has 38 years of urban pastoral ministry.
You can connect with REACH London via https://www.instagram.com/reachlondon/
Find out more on https://www.reachlondon.org/
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/
And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Edited by: Yishak Haile
Jun 25, 2025
30 min
May 9, 2025
How Does Wisdom for Relationships Help?
May 9, 2025
May 9, 2025
29 min
Why should I bother developing relational skills?
Phil and Andy discuss with Robin about whether it is possible for anyone to learn how to have better emotional intelligence.
This episode explores how the Biblical wisdom tradition helps in the quest for community.
Robin Plummer is the Pastor of New River Baptist Church.
You can connect with New River Baptist Church via https://www.instagram.com/newriverbaptistchurch/Find out more on https://www.newriverbaptist.net/
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Edited by: Yishak Haile
May 9, 2025
29 min
Apr 4, 2025
Why Relationary?
Apr 4, 2025
Apr 4, 2025
25 min
What are the parameters for seeking successful relationships?
Robin and Andy discuss with Phil about the opportunities and traps that come with trying to make relationships central to your worldview, and your faith.
This episode dives into the inherent tensions in trying to do right by others, while having living from a sense of right and wrong.
Phil is a specialist in supported housing (exempt accommodation) and a self-professed relational theology nerd. See if you can still hear a faint, Germanic twang – he went to school in the Köln/Bonn area.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities, with a Christian ethos.
We explore the community implications of relational theology across our podcast and blogs.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/
Follow us to hear about upcoming events.
Edited by: Yishak Haile
Apr 4, 2025
25 min
Mar 26, 2025
Wired for Relationship
Mar 26, 2025
Mar 26, 2025
27 min
What do healthy relationships, happiness and the Bible have to do with each other?
Robin and Phil discuss with Andy about why he feels it's so important to talk about relationships that he was up for starting a podcast with them.
This episode explores the evidence of how relationships drive happiness, and how they are at the heart of the Biblical story.
Andy Parnham, after years working as a doctor, turned to community work in inner London, during which time he and his family moved for a while to live in the Middle East. He went on to train as a Life Coach and now works as a wellbeing coach, trainer and advisor in many contexts.
His book is 'Lasting Happiness: In Search of Deeper Meaning and Fulfilment'.
Robin, Phil and Andy are friends and family, with combined training and working experience in medicine, theology, law, community formation, and leadership. Relationary is a joint project to promote and enable healthy relationships between individuals and communities.
Find out more on our website: https://relationary.org.uk/audio/And get in touch via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationary.org.uk/Follow us to hear about upcoming events.Edited by: Yishak Haile
Mar 26, 2025
27 min



